Grief & Grieving

Requiem for a Tree

By on June 17, 2014 / Leave a comment

Last weekend, eight men worked for eight hours to cut down the huge silver maple beside my garage. Though I knew it was dying, I grieved for days before the work began. Acknowledging its life was complete, I stood by the tree and thanked it for its mighty presence and the gift of cooling shade. …

The Alchemy of Grief

By on September 27, 2011 / 9 Comments

Grief touched me, cracking my heart open, a number of times this summer. While most of the encounters were somewhat removed from my immediate experience, the one that shocked me to my core was the death of a teenage boy I’d known since his birth. Jonathan’s mother, Jane, was in shock when she called to …

Coming Home through Ritual and Ceremony

By on June 22, 2011 / 5 Comments

When I see people struggling with very difficult life circumstances, sometimes I think about Hansel and Gretel. In the story, they were betrayed by their parents and abandoned in the woods. The children were horrified when the breadcrumbs they had carefully dropped behind them to help them find their way home were eaten by the …

The New Man in my Garden

By on April 19, 2011 / 3 Comments

I saw this statue in a store in Tweed recently and fell in love. I’d never seen a Weeping Buddha before. They are designed to take grief and suffering into themselves and ground it for us. Looking at this beautiful piece, I remembered something I heard in meditation years ago, “If men can cry, the …

Twenty Years Ago Today…

By on February 28, 2011 / 15 Comments

Twenty years ago today, the Gulf War came to a peaceful end after four days of fierce fighting. At this exact time, I gave birth to Talulah Raven, my strange, remarkable daughter. Had she lived, she would be a young woman now making her way in the world. While she chose to only visit me …

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